Paula Deen

Paula Deen
Paula Deen

I’m surprised by the public uproar over the headlines Paula Deen, the Southern Belle cook of Savannah, said the n-word.  The real public topic should be the law-suit filed by a valuable employee at the management level of Paula’s empire, who claims racial, sexual, physical abuse at the hands of Paula’s brother, Bubba.  From the accusations of the ex-employee, Ms. Jackson, Bubba was a “pig.”  This sounds like a story of white trash that made it to Southern Belle status but she brings along her southern pig brother who destroys her world.  That’s what she should regret because she knew what type of man her brother was and the media was bound to find something wrong.

After celebrity chef Anthony Bourdain’s attack on Paula Deen, I thought she handled it well and kept it moving.  I thought, yes Bourdain’s was right when he stated:

In an interview in with TV Guide, Bourdain calls Paula Deen “the worst, most dangerous person to America” for her artery-clogging style of cooking.
“She revels in unholy connections with evil corporations, and she’s proud of the fact that her food is f–king bad for you,” Bourdain said of the Food Network star, who is famous for her butter-heavy recipes.
“I would think twice before telling an already obese nation that it is OK to eat food that is killing us,” Bourdain said of Deen and her kitchen creations. “Plus, her food sucks.”

We are a country with an obesity problem and even McDonald’s has changed its menu to accomdate those who are watching their weight.  Myself included.  Michelle put a stamp on the new dietary pyramid and that’s what we should be eating.  Still this didn’t hurt her.  Then came the diagnosis.  Diabetes -Type 2.  Paula Deen tells her story of losing over 30 pounds and all was right with the world for her.  She still had her kingdom or should I say, her modern –day plantation .  The abuse her employees received at the hands of her brother who was like a mad white-trash slave overseer from the pre-civil war era.  You know, the kind of slave movies where the over-seer or master was over the top abusive. I don’t believe you are successful when you run your empire like Paula Deen did.  Women were de-valued and minorities were mistreated and other horrors.  This stuff is generational in the south.  It’s nothing new for Black folks.  Only whites are surprised! Click here to read disposition for your self, or ….

Here is excerpt from the Daily Beast article:
Paula Deen Uses the N-Word: 8 Shocking Details From Her Deposition
by Kevin Fallon Jun 20, 2013

It’s a fascinating and, despite its subject matter, often humorous read brimming with Paula Deenisms. (She uses the phrase “ah-ha” so often instead of “yes” during questioning that she has to be reprimanded and instructed to respond only with “yes” or “no.” She doesn’t.) It’s also 133 pages. Fear not, we’ve parsed the most salacious details for you. Happy reading, y’all.

1. She refused to have her empire destroyed by “a piece of pussy.” (Also, she uses that word!)
Former employee Lisa Jackson said that she was hired to replace a general manager at the restaurant Uncle Bubba’s who was fired for having sexual relationships with underage servers. While demanding the manager be fired, Jackson says that Deen told her brother, “If you think I have worked this hard to lose everything because of a piece of pussy, you better think again.” Asked in her deposition whether she actually said it, Deen responded with an abso-friggin-lutely: “I said that day and I would say it again today if it applied.” She then repeated the sentence, making not being in that room a regret we’ll all have to live with for the rest of our lives.

2. She really wanted to stage that Southern plantation-style wedding. But she didn’t because the media wouldn’t understand.
Jackson said she was put in charge of arrangements for Bubba’s wedding, which Deen apparently said she wanted to have a “true Southern plantation-style theme.” What, pray tell, does that mean? “Well what I would really like is a bunch of little n—-rs to wear long-sleeve white shirts, black shorts, and black bow-ties, you know in the Shirley Temple days, they used to tap dance around,” Deen reportedly elaborated. Alas, the wedding Deen envisioned never came to be. “We can’t do that because the media would be on me about that,” she reportedly told Jackson. In her testimony, Deen said that she actually was referencing the “beautiful white jackets with a black bow-tie” she saw the wait staff of “middle-aged black men” wearing at a restaurant she visited “in Tennessee or North Carolina or somewhere.”

3. She did not use the N-word to describe the waiters.
Deen objected to the accusation that she used the N-word to describe the waiters. Asked whether there was any possibility that she may have slipped and use the word, she said, “No, because that’s not what these men were. They were professional black men doing a fabulous job.” Still, when asked why nicely dressed black men would be a part of a “Southern plantation wedding,” she said it reminded her of southern America “before the Civil War.” After being reminded that black men serving people in the South before the Civil War were slaves, she agreed, but said she “did not mean anything derogatory” by her comments.

4. She doesn’t think that watching porn or being racist at work makes you a bad boss.
In her deposition, Deen was asked whether the fact that her brother admitted to watching pornography and using the N-word at their restaurant caused her to have concerns about him running their business. She responded, “just because he’s got a sense of humor does not make him a bad person or incapable of running a business.” Questioned as to whether jokes of a sexual or racist nature are in poor taste at a place of work, she responded, “We have all told off-color jokes … Every man I’ve ever come in contact with has one.”

5. But she does use the N-word!
Deen admitted to using the N-word in her life, after a “black man” put a gun to her head at a bank where she was working. She said she used it because she “didn’t feel real favorable towards him.” She also said she’s sure she’s used the word since, “but it’s been a very long time” and guessed that she probably used it when quoting “a conversation between blacks.”

6. She doesn’t think the N-word is bad, as long as it’s used in a joke.
Deen said that she and her husband taught her children not to use the N-word in a mean way. Asked when exactly that word be used in a not-mean way, she said either when repeating what you may hear “black people” say in the kitchen or when used in a joke.

7. She sees nothing wrong with watching a little porn at work.
A major point in the suit is that Deen’s brother, Bubba, was accused of looking at pornography at work and showing it to employees. Asked whether she has any problem with such practices, Deen said, “If somebody sent him something and he pulled it up and looked at it, no, I would not persecute him for that.”

8. Her bathroom sounds amazing.
Deen’s bathroom has a sofa and two chairs in it. She calls it a “bathroom/den combination.” That’s not particularly salacious. But it’s definitely intriguing.

In my opinion Paula Deen’s dilemma of losing major sponsors like Food Network, Sears, JCPenny, Cesar Entertainment, Smithfield, Target and the others are justifiable.  Corporate America can not endorse the items listed in the complaint.  Paula’s empire bad behavior is equivalent to a foreign country mistreating their workers who produce American products.

Her fans still love her and are showing their loyalty by spending their money.  And after all, Christians believe in forgiveness and second chances.  This could be Paula’s last chance!

Happy Fathers Day


This is a day of “celebration” for your dad, father, pop and dada, whatever you call yours.  Folks buy cards, gifts and could celebrate the day with a poem or this is your life on CD. That’s the one thing I never had to do was decide what I was buying my father for father’s day.  He just wasn’t around. I knew his name and remember seeing him when I was 8 years old but that was the extent of the “father daughter moment.”

I did reach out to him when I was 25 years old. I was at that stage in life where you are discovering who you really are and that “father” piece of my puzzle was missing.  I ask could we communicate with a phone call but  I got no response. And when I pushed the messenger for his phone number,  I was told its best that I don’t contact him. What do you do with that?  Well, I decided to declare myself a “fatherless daughter.”  Damn Skippy!!  I am a fatherless daughter and the only man that fathered me at all was my maternal grandfather.  He was an expert father.  After all, he was the father of 8 children.father

My grandfather introduced me to religion.  We were in church often enough for me to remember and we participated in enough Easter Sunday recitals to have obtained a bravery stance to public speaking. Also, he taught me to fight back and don’t run.  Hit them back if they hit. I called him “dada” and he had the softest hair that he let me comb as he sat in his favorite chair.  I can remember looking forward to hearing the Steel Mill whistle blow because I knew he would be coming up the hill towards home. And then life would get interesting.

My dada would be relaxing on the porch swing with me and I would tell him all that I knew. I was an adult when I learned that my interesting stuff I told my dada got other family members into trouble.  They had secrets that they didn’t want my dada to know. But, now I realize how he listened to me as a child.  He took the time when he didn’t have to. He died when I was 9 years old. I knew he loved me and cared for me.  And yes, I’m sure he prayed for me.

Shhhh…. Government listening!!

I be damn!  Someone OUTED the government on the collection of millions citizen’s phone conversations. DAMN!! I was hoping it wasn’t true. But, ever since Bush was president I felt I had less freedoms and privacy. And my friends, we were forewarned by George Orwell’s 1984. The government has preyed on our fears of terrorism. Unfortunately, the terrorist threat is real whether home-based or foreign. But, what about our freedoms and privacy?


Listed below are 5 freedoms and privacy that no longer exist:

1. No longer able to have a private phone conversation. Government listening.
2. Serious medical events being private. Medical Information Board. Yes, there is a corporation who protects insurance underwriters by retaining information on those who have had medical events.
3. No longer able to walk down a street without being video taped.
4. No longer expect online activities to be private. The government is receiving information via Google, Facebook and other social media sites.
5. And of course we can’t leave out the driving force in America, the dollar. Yes, the government keeps track of your banking and wants to know when you make large deposits.

I’m sure there are more ways our freedoms and privacy are being eroded!
George Orwell 1984 Quotes:
“He who controls the past controls the future. He who controls the present controls the past.”
“Doublethink means the power of holding two contradictory beliefs in one’s mind simultaneously, and accepting both of them.”
“Big Brother is Watching You.”

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